Monthly Archives: October 2014

Catch & Release ~ A Week of R&R

A week in Northern Wisconsin during the month of October is like a piece of heaven. The colors are so vibrant and the water so still. Most of the tourists have gone home (except for us of course!) and we have the place all to ourselves (mostly.) One of my core desired feelings is FREE. That’s how I feel when I am here. It’s the perfect place to catch up on overdue self-care (primary food) when you have been putting yourself on the bottom of your “love” list. I always intend to cut out a chunk of my day just for me, but that doesn’t always happen. When I am  in this space it’s hard to do anything but. Calm. Quiet. Serene…Peace.

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This is me facing one of my fears head on (if you can read what it says on my hands, NO FEAR!) It was so liberating and so FREEING to jump from that plane! And I have heard from so many of you that said “I have no idea how you did that”! Well guess what… Neither do I! I NEVER desired to jump out of a plane, like some do.

But I do know that deciding to do it was the very first step. I know that sounds crazy, but it’s the truth! Did you know that most people are not able to make DECISIONS? We are never taught DECISION-making in school. It’s just not part of the curriculum. We stay in constant conflict and get stuck in our inability to make a DECISION. There are only a very small percentage of us that truly understand that making a DECISION is always the first step in facing our fears or following our hearts desire. I didn’t know how I was going to jump from that plane; I just knew I was going to. I still don’t know how I did it! But I did do it!!

The truth is, you do not need to know how it will happen (that is God’s job- to show you the way). It is simply your job to make the DECISION to do it (whatever it is). I was given the courage that I needed to jump out of that plane; backing out (quitting) was not an option for me. That was another DECISION I had made…follow through. And for those of us who are able to make a DECISION (without others opinions) are the same people whose annual income falls into the –YOU HAVE MADE IT category. Every aspect of your life is affected by your ability or inability to make a DECISION (not just your income).

Your inability to make a decision is also the reason you procrastinate. That was a real AHA moment for me! It is the law of polarity. Stop procrastinating and start making DECISIONS! You already know what you want to do. Your intuition is guiding you. Are you listening? Or will you ignore it and be thrown completely off track? Start small if you must- you don’t need to jump out of a plane! When you make the wrong DECISION, and you will at times, you simply adjust, turn around, change direction…course correct. You WILL be shown a way if you are paying attention.

Where would you like to see your life in 3-5 years? Write it down and DREAM BIG! Hold strong to that vision and don’t worry about how it will come to pass; get excited about it! If you quit, you fail. If you worry about how you will do it, you will never get there. That thinking is coming from a place of lack. There is no lack. There is more than enough to go around. Others have given you the thought of scarcity (others that don’t understand) that all you need is right here.

Decision makers are great thinkers; making a DECISION is part of the thought process. We become what we think about and our thoughts control every DECISION we make. Think good thoughts! Don’t let unhappy, negative people affect you. Make the DECISION right now that you will not discuss or get involved in a discussion of why something cannot be done. Figure it out. Find a way.

I decided to jump out of a plane because I was terrified of it. I chose one BIG thing that really scared me, in an effort to start facing all of the other fears (the little things) that I needed to push through. The DECISIONS that I need to make on a daily basis to allow me to live my best life… and stop procrastinating! Make sense?

So, what is YOUR fear? What is stopping you from DECIDING to be the best you that you can be?



all gloryEverything is NOT about money. Let it go. Sometimes you just have to do things for the sake of doing it. Does it make you feel good? Will it empower you…others? Is it beautiful? Does it speak to you? Will it change your life? Will it change someone else’s life? Does it matter? Do YOU matter? (The answer is yes. YOU matter.)

Sometimes things don’t have to OR need to make sense. You just need to do it. Say it. Experience it. Be it. Create it. Feel it. It’s all good. It’s all beautiful. Is it coming from YOUR heart space? Do you feel compelled? Does it light you up? Yes? Then it’s a go.

And for the LOVE OF GOD…stop worrying about what everyone else will think and do what feels good, right, on purpose, for YOU. Live. Love. Laugh. Dream. Believe. Inspire. You got this…and you don’t need permission from anyone but YOU.


Inside Out



I have searched my entire life for the perfect diet, the magic pill, the easy way out. Yes, there are many, many, m-a-n-y diets out there. But what I have discovered over the years of losing weight, and gaining weight, and losing weight, and gaining weight, is this: the answer, the cure, the path, the desire all comes from within. At no time in my life have I ever fully taken responsibility for the life that I am living. I have blamed when something doesn’t go my way or when I can’t figure something out. Or when I feel like crap. It’s so much easier to blame and point fingers at someone or something on the outside, rather than going within.

I am here to tell you that YOU, ME, US…WE all have the answers. We always have. The problem is we don’t pay attention. We shut down that voice inside. Not the voice in our head, but rather our intuition. That part of us that knows, that guides, that leads us to our better self. For years I have silenced that part of “me”, not trusting or believing that I could possibly have an answer. How can “I” know what is best for me? Haven’t I been told my whole life WHAT to think, believe, read? Who to follow, who to watch? Jesus knows, God knows, it’s spirit, it’s religion, that’s unholy, that’s not what Jesus would do. Do you really believe that? Don’t you know better? Go to church. Go to school. Go to the office. Stop daydreaming. Pay attention. Don’t do that. Do this. And all along, the answer was inside. This is what I wish I would have known…would have been told…would have taught my daughters and sons.

You, I, we, all of us have a God given ability to find our own answers. That silent part inside; the whisper of God. Instinct. Intuition. DO you hear it? Is your body saying no? Is your body saying YES? Are you paying attention? Listen. Listen. Pay attention to that. Trust yourself to know the answer, God is guiding you. Get silent. Meditate. Pray. Listen to your breath. Feel your heartbeat. Does it feel good? Does it feel right? Is something off? What does your gut tell you? That my friend is your answer.

I do not want to ever cut out an entire food group. I want to live. I want to taste the pleasures that life has for me…all of them! And I want to do it responsibly. Not a “diet” not a “program”. Not a “proven system”. I want to create good habits so that living a life and feeling good is natural, the way God inteded it to be. He thought of everything. He left nothing out. He wants to give you the desires of your heart. He wants you to be happy. He wants you to give love and to receive it too. He wants you to enjoy the pleasures that He has so graciously given to us.

Without love you have nothing. N-O-T-H-I-N-G! (NO-THING).

And guess where that starts? With you.

Can you make a decision right now to be happy despite not having the body, the life that you want, in the present moment? And know that you are worthy? If you can do that, start to feel good each day, everything you desire will come to you. It is TRUE! Love yourself, feel GOOD. Share LOVE & JOY with everyone you meet. GIVE. Love. BLESSED. Behave as if it is coming TODAY! What would you do if you had the body that you desired today? How would you treat it? What would you do? Would you go for a walk? Would you dance? Would you celebrate? Would you make love? You are a magnet! You will attract all of this into your life if you do it now…do it now as if!

Inspire others. Encourage others. You are the authority in your own life. Do not give away your power, YOU are the expert of YOU. Ask inside of you. Your body, your cells, are listening to you. When you blame and judge others, you are blaming and judging yourself! And you WILL attract more of that. Want more love? Then send more love. Give more love.

Stop. Stop in this moment. Stop. Breathe. Breathe. Inhale light. Exhale dark. Inward. Love. Say it…say it…I love you. Say it again. I love you. Take a moment. Sit with it. Be still. Be silent. Inward first. Always inward first. Now…who have you not forgiven? Who do you hold responsible for your misery? Who are you shaming? Who are you blaming? Who do you judge? Stop. Right now. Breathe. Silence. Breathe again. Now. Say it. Say it. I send you love. I send you love. I send you love. Silence. Breathe.

Is it you? IS. IT. YOU? Of course it is. It IS you. It is you in different pants, different hair, different shoes, but yes, IT. IS. YOU. Send love. Right now. To her. To you. Send love.

When we find faults in others, we are looking in a mirror. A reflection of self. Forgive. Love. Believe. You. I. We. Are. Possible.


Pass the Bread, Please.

I LOVE baking bread. Actually, I love baking. Period. And I’ve been in my kitchen a lot lately. As fall approaches every year, I find myself nesting and getting ready to “settle in”. September is as much a love as fall itself. In my mind, it’s the new January. So with that comes more time on Pinterest and more time with the oven on! Baking anything from scratch has always been a passion. Sometimes when I know I’m going to be home alone for a day or two, I plan my whole day around “what I will bake.” And off to Pinterest I go, looking for recipes and pinspiration.

This year we will enjoyed some r&r time in a cabin on a lake, up north. I couldn’t have been more excited. A dream come true… mornings spent with my book, a hot mug of coffee, Joe on the lake fishing and a fully equipped kitchen for me and lots of time to bake. Perfect. Yes, it was.

Baking reminds me of when I was a little girl. My mom made everything from scratch. Processed food had little room in our house, and growing up with a stay-at-home mom (I think all mom’s stayed at home back in “those” days…didn’t they?) gave me a great foundation.

And who doesn’t love a good slice of bread? I know there is much controversy over “bread” these days…I have had this argument with myself plenty! But my opinion is this: I love bread, I love baking it, and I love breaking it; I have no plans to quit. It is both meditative and theraputic; an art form to some. I use good quality organic ingredients as much as I possibly can and I don’t eat the whole loaf. I share it. Non-GMO is SUPER important to me, and as of this writing, if it is labeled “organic” it is non-GMO and in my opinion safe(er). For those that have a gluten allergy or sensitivity (like my grandkids) and shouldn’t eat bread, please don’t. (btw…finding out if you have a gluten sensitivity is easy with my do-it-now-detox.

I am not in favor of eliminating whole food groups, as long as you are using good ingredients, buying responsibly and doing your cooking at home as much as possible. We steer clear of processed foods in our house and do lots of “from scratch” cooking (yes, even cake…eat the cake!) I believe it’s key. (psssttt…nothing is “good” or “bad”, those are just LABELS that WE give. Think about it.)

I love being in my kitchen and feel that the benefits of doing something I love and enjoy, far out weigh the “contoversary” of whether or not we should be eating it. Primary (soul) food is just as important as what we are physically putting into our mouths. Joe is a hunter gatherer, so meat will always be a part of our diet. Responsible. Our freezer is full of venison, wild turkey and beef from a local farmer that raises free range cattle, eating lots of grass (you know, the way they are supposed to.)

Here is the recipe I have been using as of late:

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Show up. Be authentic. For yourself. NO-ONE else. It’s not about counting calories. It’s not about a number on a scale. It is about being present. In the moment. In this moment. Worthy. You are worthy. Ask the right questions. What if everything you’ve done so far is the reason you are here…right now…your purpose. Then what? Look at it from a point of curiosity, rather than judgement- what will come up? Wonder. Wonder… There is nothing you can’t do. It doesn’t matter how old you are. Vision. Have a vision. WHEN you come through it, and you will, you WILL take others through it too. Get clear. Focus. YOU are the focus. You.

How do you WANT to feel? Dream. Believe. Have faith. What will you do to get that feeling? Baby steps. Slow & steady. Consistent. Committment. Be committed. Rewire. Jump. You win because you are prepared for failure. Prepared FOR failure. Failure is only one way that didn’t work. Failure means progress. You are prepared. You keep going. You know there is a way. Find it. Find a way. Figure. It. Out. Keep going. Jump. Your beliefs always override your values. You believe. Are you interested or are you committed? Commit. Just do it. You will succeed because you will always find what doesn’t work. And then… you change it.  And you keep changing it. That is HOW you… Figure. It. Out. And oh yes…remember to show up. This is for you. It’s all for YOU.